Green Beans with Vinaigrette basically steamed green beans. Can be made the day ahead. Served room temperature.
Braised Onions – not exciting me.
Stewed Green Beans and Poblanos – Hm. “serve immediately” DH is a kitchen hog when he’s cooking turkey.
Stewed Green Beans with Bacon a possibility. It says I can make it ahead of time. I could do it in the crock pot, too.
New Green Bean Casserole has to cook in the oven.
French Green Beans with Butter Sauce and Crispy Leeks – ugh! I have to fry the leeks.
Mashed Root Vegetables – mashed turnips and potatoes NOT!
Warm Sweet-and-Sour Orange Beets – I wonder how this would be w/o sugar. I could make it ahead of time and warm it up.
COPING WITH THE HOLIDAYS
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- Lower your expectations of yourself.
- Forget about what other people think you should do and feel – give yourself permission to feel and do whatever you think is right.
- It’s OK to stay away from children for a while.
- Pick and choose the family events you will attend.
- Find comfort or inspiration in a holiday event or a new tradition.
- Offer kindness and support to others who are having a hard time.
- Set some goals.
These can be very small goals, like I will get out of bed on such-&-such day.
- Do something special for yourself.
- Look to your religious beliefs for strength and support.
For those of us who aren’t religious and, perhaps, not even spiritual, we can still find comfort in rituals. A common ritual for many Americans is to make coffee first thing in the morning. It’s more than just the caffiene. The smell of the coffee as you spoon it out. Listening to it perk. Pouring that first cup. Wrapping your hand around the cup. Well, I find doing that very grounding and comforting.
- Plan ways to help you handle uncomfortable situations.
Leaving, either temporarily or permanently, is always an option.
- Plan a special event for just your baby’s parents.
- Share with your family and friends what helps and what hurts.
I am an aunt of a child that died. When I went to work for the first time after Diego died, one of my girlfriends took me to her office, closed the door, wrapped me in her arms, and cried with me. Just because it’s been a year, doesn’t mean that I couldn’t use that quiet comfort now, and I’m sure that it is true for parents.
- If you have other children, try to make the holidays fun for them.
- Holidays can be emotionally and physically draining. Try to get enough rest.
- Anticipation of any holiday can be worse than the actual holiday.
- Remember- holidays are only temporary.
Coping with Grief during Holidays
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GriefNet Library: Coping with Grief during Holidays This webpage provides a few book recommendations on how to handle the holidays. The books are probably also good for any celebration.
- DECIDE WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE COMFORTABLY AND LET FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW. Can I handlle the responsibility of the family dinner, etc. or shall I ask someone else to do it? Do I want to talk about my loved one or not? Shall I stay here for the holidays or go to a completely different environment? Whatever you want is what your family and friends want to give. Please, please, don’t be afraid to say no, this is too much, not now, I can’t, etc. If you can, tell us what you think might work. We love you, and we want to comfort you and help you while you are grieving.
- MAKE SOME CHANGES IF THEY FEEL COMFORTABLE FOR YOU. Open presents Christmas Eve instead of Christmas morning. Vary the timing of Channukah gift giving. Have dinner at a different time or place. Let the children take over decorating the house, the tree, baking and food preparation, etc.
- RE-EXAMINE YOUR PRIORITIES: GREETING CARDS, HOLIDAY BAKING, DECORATING, PUTTING UP A TREE, FAMILY DINNER, ETC. Do I really enjoy doing this? Is this a task that can be shared?
- CONSIDER DOING SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR SOMEONE ELSE. Donate a gift in the memory of your loved one. Donate money you would have spent on your loved one as a gift to charity. Adopt a needy family for the holidays. Invite a guest (foreign student, senior citizen) to share festivities.
- RECOGNIZE YOUR LOVED ONE’S PRESENCE IN THE FAMILY. Burn a special candle to quietly include your loved one. Hang a stocking for your loved one in which people can put notes with their thoughts or feelings. Listen to music especially liked by the deceased. Look at photographs. I really like the stocking idea.
- IF YOU DECIDE TO DO HOLIDAY SHOPPING, MAKE A LIST AHEAD OF TIME AND KEEP IT HANDY FOR A GOOD DAY, OR SHOP THROUGH A CATALOGUE.
- OBSERVE THE HOLIDAYS IN WAYS WHICH ARE COMFORTABLE FOR YOU. There is no right or wrong way of handling holidays. Once you’ve decided how to observe the time, let others know.
- TRY TO GET ENOUGH REST — HOLIDAYS CAN BE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY DRAINING.
- ALLOW YOURSELF TO EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS. Holidays often magnify feelings of loss. It is natural to feel sadness. Share concerns, apprehensions, feelings with a friend. The need for support is often greater during holidays.
- KEEP IN MIND THAT THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY BEREAVED PERSONS IS THAT THEY DO COME TO ENJOY HOLIDAYS AGAIN. THERE WILL BE OTHER HOLIDAY SEASONS TO CELEBRATE.
- DON’T BE AFRAID TO HAVE FUN. Laughter and joy are not disrespectful. Give yourself and your family members permission to celebrate and take pleasure in the holidays.
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I love winter squash and sweet potatoes. I’m not going to follow any of the recipes listed here. Dad is diabetic, so adding brown sugar, honey, maple syrup, etc. etc. to the squash is not really an option. In addition, I am thinking that I will add in other root veggies, e.g. leeks, turnips. Hm. I made a recipe out of Sunset one year that was fabulous. Hm. It was called Roasted Roots. I wonder if I can find it. … Can’t find it. :crappy:
Winter Squash explanation – but they diss my favorite: turbin squash.
Shopping list suggestions:
# 4 carrots (about 3/4 pound), peeled, halved lengthwise and crosswise, thick pieces halved again
# 2 sweet potatoes (about 1 pound total), peeled and cut into 3-by-1/2-inch pieces
# 1 butternut squash (about 2 pounds), peeled, seeded, and cut into 3-by-1/2-inch pieces
# 8 garlic cloves, unpeeled
8 squash, such as kabocha, acorn, delicata, and buttercup
Roasted Harvest Vegetables
Glazed Squashes and Sweet Potato
Butter-Pecan Sweet Potatoes
Stuffed Sweet Dumpling Squash
Sweet Potato Casserole
Maple-Glazed Sweet Potatoes
We’re hosting this year, and it’s time to make some decisions. I’m considering the following.
Cranberry-Orange Sauce – Looks very simple – I think I would like my usual chutney better.
Cranberry Pear Chutney – Dates do NOT turn me on.
Cranberry Chutney – Hm. Ginger and shallots w/cranberries. I wonder how it would be if I added pears or apples. Hm.
Cranberry-Apple Chutney – Figs don’t do it for me either.
Cranberry-Apple Chutney :flirty: This one looks interesting. It’s more complicated, but that’s okay.
Nina’s Chutney – 1x 16oz package fresh cranberries, 2 cups suger, 1 cup water, 1 TBS fresgh grated orange peel, 1 cup orange juice. Put the cranberries, sugar and water in a pot and bring to boil stirring constantly. Reduce heat and simmer for 15 minutes. Add orange peel and juice, stir, cover and put in fridge. I’ve made this every year for 20 years and everyone loves it.
Any other suggestions?